I was not aware how much of a difference it can make on how you see life and people's needs for a long time. The more you observe and discuss with people, you can see what has forged you, why it's sometimes difficult to communicate how you feel and see the world.
I was talking with Amanda Leeks about courage, what it means for every one of us, how it's more about showing up despite of fear than showing up without fear.
That reminded me of that Instagram post I did 2 years ago, talking about me growing up in a circle of older people, dementia and grief. That cames from a competition Mark Leruste did to be a guest on his Unconventionalist podcast. It took courage to share my thoughts on this post, even more to actually do the podcast (yes I won the competition). I was excited about the opportunity, also scared of making a fool of myself. The line up of guests on his podcast is quite impressive and my imposter syndrome was screaming loudly at me.
Mark is so kind and a wonderful host, he made the experience so much easier than I thought it would be. I'm so very grateful for the opportunity. Here's the link to the episode if you want to hear what the gift of grief can be.
How it happened, how much support you had when it happened, how you were able to sit with it and heal... or not.
All that will shape you in different ways. and if you never had to experience it (which is a surreal idea to me, but I did someone who never had a death in his closed circle in his life... he was past his forties then... ), it definitely is like a foreign country you can't imagine.
Grief is not just for mourning for someone who transitioned. It's for what you dreamed of that is now a crushed dream, it's for hopes that have been faded. It's a love that had to end. It's an identity you have to say goodbye to.
Because of the uncertainty, the complete shake-up of our habits, way of being, fears, loss of family members and friends, the canceling of many meaningful events... nowadays many people are feeling grief.
Here are a few resources for you if you are going through this. You are not alone, and we are all feeling all the feels. Sometimes going through contradictory ones on the same day. All normal, all valid.
Please be gentle with yourself.
I love the word fallow and everything it carries. It's part of what I keep in mind in my process and containers to go through life.
Grief makes us think about what is important. When we sit with it, we can hear what our heart craves, what matters.
Sitting with it is not easy. but sitting in stillness brings a dialog with ourselves. If you can do it, it's a beautiful encounter.
If you have had trauma, please search for someone who can guide and hold you through the process. Don't try this on your own.
Here's an article that may bring some light and hopes for what is being born now, through this fallow the World is in.
What if the Coronavirus is the Ultimate Pause & Reset Button? on Elephant Journal
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I have known grief and loss and uncertainty all my life, in various ways.
I have seen how people react in all these situations.
The people you expect to be strong sometimes fall on their knees straight away, while the gentle one you were afraid for manages to work through everything. Or the one who holds the fort for everyone for years, out of the blue, after everybody else has grieved, crashed as they feel they can finally put the armor down.
🧡 Don’t label yourself or anyone else or judge people in how much they seem to do or care right now. 🧡
Some work in the light, some work in private.
There are no right or wrong (apart not washing your hands, c’mon Dude. That’s gross and irresponsible.)
There are many more variations and ranges in how we respond to what’s happening.
🌸 You can be calm, not worried about this virus and still apply all advice to flatten the curb.
🌸 You can think it’s a conspiracy to impose a vaccine and still follow the advice to flatten the curb, because it is also accepting that we’re all in it together and that you’d rather be on the side of caution when making your decision.
🌸 You can be strong for your loved ones and fall apart from your anxiety in the evening.
🌸 You can rejoice the calm, the stillness and the renew of nature because pollution is decreasing.
🌸 You can feel anxious for the economy more than the virus,
🌸 You can feel all of these ⏫ at various times of the day.
🌸 You can be the one holding the light one day and asking for help the day after.
There is no need to put pressure on yourself, or judge yourself.
💪🏼There are a lot of calls to be the leader and show up as a leader.
YES, if you have that in your bones, do it. We all need it. 💪🏼
If you can’t… It’s all ok. 🌸
😊 If you can only brace yourself to send a warm smile to a fellow Human in the shop, that may be your superhero gesture of the day, and that smile can have a big effect on the person. ☺️
🏝 If you are the only person you can give love and care to, it’s ok too. Thank you for doing this, it’s one person that is taken care of.
🚶🏻♀️If you go round checking on the elderly, your loved ones and people who cope less. Great! Thank you for being the helper so many needs.
🎃 if you are the one that shares silly memes and pictures to keep our spirit up, thank you.
In these times, something is clear. We are all different, we react to things differently.
We are all connected though and all that we do impact the others.
In small and big ways.
Let’s be kind, even more to ourselves. 💞
Treat yourself to an online meditation, a body checking, listen to Gregorian music (I know, it’s weird, I promise, it’s the ONLY thing with binaural beats that truly make my body calm down when the pressure starts to hit.)
🎞 Life is not a short-film, it’s a long tv serie, with seasons and plot twists… We never know how many episodes we have, but it doesn’t stop us to watch.
If you want to get cracking with work, do it, if you need to create a staycation retreat, do it.
🧰 If there’s something you need, comment below. Plenty of people around here, with various tools, knowledge, strength...
I’m prepping a blog article with tips for you that will be updated as I find more resources.
Much love and virtual hugs to you all.
💗💕Thank you for being you.
Podcasting is very trendy now. It's very powerful, it helps create beautiful connections but it's easy to make a few mistakes, waste time or miss out on opportunities.
I have made a few mistakes when I created one or seen others do. I'd rather you wouldn't do the same so here's what I learned launching mine and prepping my second one.
[Disclaimer, this post has been written quickly to answer a few questions that are coming back again and again. Bookmark it and review regularly, I'll update it regularly]
Too many people try to host it on their site.
This is NOT a good idea.
The extra cost may feel too much but believe me, it's best for peace of mind, analytics and growth.
Some good hosts are
Plenty of other providers with various price tags.
Make sure you can easily share episodes with all platforms (Apple, Google, Spotify etc... Youtube even if that's of interest to you.)
Make sure it's readable even when it's tiny. Look at ITunes on your phone or any podcast app and you’ll see how tiny it will be once in use.
You need to get something with contrasting colours (no light blue on medium blue for example, it won’t read) and a pic of you or some art that makes sense will help. My first logo didn’t “say” anything and I have wasted opportunities that way. ?
That's something I regretted not to do for my podcast at first. I did one myself, without getting music and it was not really perky or quite like me. When I launched season two, I created one with music and it felt much more like me and like something that people would recognize.
You can find inexpensive ones on platforms like Audiojungle.
If you can invest only a tiny bit, try to put the money in your mic. The sound quality is important and can be improved for cheap. Using a good camera for your computer allows you to get better sound than with the mic of the laptop.
Use an app that allows you to record the two voices on two separate files so you can edit more easily in case of trouble if someone cough over the voice of the other for example.
Garageband on Mac or Audacity can do wonders if you know how to use them.
Record an episode 0 that is a short intro about who you are, why they should listen to the show and what it will be about, its pace etc... Episode 0 tend to be listened to even when you reach episode 100.
It's really worth doing.
Launch 3 episodes at once. Your episode 0 and two normal episodes. People want to understand what you show is about and will often listen to more than one when they have the excitement of the launch.
Keep the others as buffers. It's really tough to keep recording and publishing regularly. Most podcasters stopped at 8 episodes. Life happens, holiday and sickness included. That is the thing that bit me bad when I started. Always running against the clock and missing the deadline because I had no buffer.
Have fun, breathe before you start recording. Don't stop because "you hate your voice". We all do 😛
It's one thing people underuse a lot.
Just go to APPEARANCE >> MENU >> CUSTOM LINK.⠀
You can also reorder pages or rename the title so that long titles don't clutter your WordPress menu.
Small tip, big freedom.
If you followed me on Instagram for a while, you know I am a long-term bullet-journalist (is that a word ?). I have used it to help me have more clarity. Used paired with my weekly review (GTD-style), it helps me see where I’m at in life and business, it helps me be more grounded.
Half of me thought I didn’t need to read the book as I knew the bullet journal method well but I thought even if I don’t learn anything, it’s a small way to THANK Ryder Carroll for the tool and community he created.
Well I was wrong. I haven’t finished yet, but already want to share... as I read I keep highlighting bits (see the images) because it is hitting home.
It’s reconnecting me with WHY I use it and HOW I could deepen my relationship/use of it. It’s really in sync with where I want in life (can you see the word “bridge” in this image?!) and where I’m heading in 2019 (already picked my word for the year and it’s INTENTIONAL).
I feel I have used my bujo on automatic lately, taking it for granted. Of course, I made tweaks, but there were all details.
I will share soon how I am setting up my new bujo, going back to the core of the method for some bits and going deeper and with more meaning in my own relationship to what I write in it.
I can’t recommend the book enough, even for those who think their “bujojitsu” as Ryder said is already great.
If you want to buy it and use my affiliate link as a thank-you for the recommendation, you can buy through this link https://amzn.to/2z3YK7o ?
if you want to chat about it, find here where I hang out online and let me know what you think!
[activecampaign form=15]I stumbled on Cheryl thanks to Tanya & Claire and I had straight away a business crush on her and knew I had to have her on the podcast.
After realizing that she couldn't get what her daughter wanted T-shirt-wise, she took matters into in her own hands and created a fun, colorful and positive range of t-shirts that let girls show their love of dinosaurs and pirates. Now she taking the mission even further and is launching a Kickstarter campaign to get a book out to challenge cliches and stereotypes around what boys and girls can do.
Cheryl Rickman is a business and well-being book author/ghostwriter, with 12 books published. YES YOU CAN is her first children’s book. Cheryl qualified as a Positive Psychology Practitioner in January 2017 and is an Ambassador for Let Clothes Be Clothes and The Network of Wellbeing and Founder of ClimbingTreesKids.com. She lives in Hampshire with her daughter, husband and dog.
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Kickstarter page for the book https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/522351957/yes-you-can-childrens-book-to-combat-gender-stereo
T-shirt shop: https://www.climbingtreeskids.com/
Cheryl Rickman website for her resilience and writing work: http://www.cherylrickman.co.uk/
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You may be surprised by this image but I love making pancakes and I feel that this meditative moment, making the batter, waiting while the pancake cooks, burning one in a while, helped me see business in a more relaxed and forgiving way.
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Listen to discover why.
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A really fun episode with two ladies whose business, values and style I simply adore.
When a personal trainer and a mindset coach with a similar outlook on life and similar humor start a new venture, it's a match made in heaven.
We get talking about body size norms, confidence, health, humor, values, setting up a tone in your business that is yours and how we should find new words for insults as they are too often linked to the Feminine.
These ladies lead by example and are ready to support you with health and mindset concern, starting with their first event (click here - early bird price till April 21st ).
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If we were to see a mum shouting at her daughter, saying how crap her drawing is, how bad her singing is, that she shouldn’t try do this or that because she’s not good enough, we would be horrified.
Weirdly enough, that’s what we do with ourselves every day.
We don’t dare putting our Thing out there because it’s not “good enough”, our voice is not good enough to be on a podcast, we are not pretty/smart/slim/young/old enough to make a video, do a keynote, launch that business.
We feel guilty of not doing that to-do list, we feel guilty of feeling overwhelmed, not doing enough for our family, our business.
As it’s been said by Danielle Laporte
Don’t let perfection become procrastination.
or as said during the Right brain video summit,
Done is better than perfect.
Aiming high is good as long as it doesn’t prevent you from doing things or get you disappointed with yourself.
Accept that you are ok where you are, you’re on a journey, give yourself some love, see the child in a learning and growing process in yourself.
Nurture that child and give yourself encouragement for those little bits you are doing great already and be gentle for what’s to be done.
Accept the bad days, the time flying quick, the mistakes. it’s a process, it’s not a deep flaw of yours. Mistakes don’t define who you are.
I know loving one-self is tough sometimes, but at least try to see yourself with a gentle smile and curiosity : “what is that person about to achieve ? I can’t wait to see that”. Because nothing happens if you keep breaking your momentum with harsh judgments.
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